Welcome!   My name is David, and I want to thank you first and foremost for visiting.  I truly consider it a privilege to engage and connect with you.

 

So What's My Story?

 

My life changed in one day.  One day I was married, with a wife, an almost 3-year-old daughter, and an 18-month old son.  The next day I was wondering what the hell happened and how I was going to manage to live through this unexpected nightmare that was now my new reality. 

I never thought I would go through a divorce, suddenly be a single parent, and find myself broken, and yet…here I was.  Out of respect for my ex-wife and children, I won’t go into the details of what led to my divorce.  What I will tell you is that my divorce and child-custody battle would last almost 3 tumultuous years.  The emotional toll would find me wondering how I would get through the workday, as I couldn’t focus on anything except my pain and present circumstances.  The spiritual toll found me feeling betrayed and questioning my faith.  The physical toll left me feeling perpetually drained and tired.  The financial impact left me void of savings, retirement, and in severe debt.  The first few months of my divorce were like trying to swim through quicksand, like trying to breathe through a straw, and I would not wish them upon anyone. 

But that isn’t where the story ends.  As I navigated through my personal and legal battles, I realized I had two choices before me: be the victim and drown in the wake of this storm or take an active role in creating a new life with new possibilities for myself and most importantly, my children.  I chose to take ownership, to do the hard work, and to learn and grow through adversity.  It wasn’t easy, sometimes it was two steps forward and three back, sometimes the storm seemed relentless; but I kept moving forward.  I continued learning, praying, doing the difficult work of accepting where I was, but refusing to stay in that place.  And then, something happened.  The dark clouds began to lighten, even under the weight of uncertainty.  I began to dream again, hope again, and started looking at life with a new perspective.

In no way do I pretend that my three-year divorce and child-custody journey wasn’t hellacious, it was.  In fact, 10 years after that initial battle was over, my ex-wife attempted to get the custody agreement overturned, and that ordeal would last another three years!  So, I have been through the storm again and again...so much that after a while I learned to enjoy the rain.  And that’s my point!  Whether you saw the raging storm of divorce coming, or if it slammed into you without warning, it’s here, and you’re going to have to face it.  What matters is how you decide to deal with this new reality, and understanding that the decisions you make now will affect your tomorrow and the years that follow.  We don’t always get to choose what happens to us, but we do get to choose how we react to it. 

And this is what led me to divorce coaching.  I knew that I could look at my experience with either regret or opportunity.  My divorce could be an anchor, or it could be a springboard, but that decision was 100% up to me!  So, I decided to take my experiences and passion to serve and help coach others through their own divorce journey. Divorce is ugly, painful, messy, and miserable, there's no denying that. It's the death of a love story, the breaking apart of a family unit, and the emotions and ripple effects that surround it can reach far and wide.  But, there's another side to divorce that's often and easily missed.  Where there is an ending, there is also a beginning.  Divorce in all it's unflattering and unfortunate circumstance also presents the opportunity and possibility for a new life.  I can say that with confidence and with certainty because I have lived it.  You may feel powerless and like a victim right now, but you're not!  You have options and there is power in your decisions and in how you choose to handle the challenges you now face.  I have seen the darkness of divorce, but I've also seen beautiful new horizons and the incredible adventures that lie on the other side of it.  It starts with a decision to not stay stuck where you're at, then you choose to move forward one step and one day at a time.

 

So What's Your Story?

So what's your story?  Where are you at right now?  If you’re going through a divorce, you have the same two choices in front of you that I had…sink or swim?  Will you be the victim, pounded by the storm and thrown about by the waves?  Or, will you choose to push through the storm and set your sails in a new direction?  My goal is to help you navigate the divorce journey, to learn from where I have been, and to be a support, encouragement, and beacon through the darkness.  There is more life, hope and joy on the other side of divorce, but you have to take definitive action and be an advocate for yourself.  

Deciding to hire a divorce coach is an important choice.  If you're going to walk through one of your most difficult and dark times with someone by your side, they need to be the right fit for you.  So, if you would like to learn more about how we can do the hard but necessary work of creating a new life for you, then schedule a FREE, no obligation intro session with me.  Let’s talk about where you are, where you want to be, and how we can get there together.